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14 Tips to Overcome Jealousy from Your Best Friend

Jealousy is a human vice that tends to creep into any and every relationship. It usually stems out of a feeling of inferiority from a particular person. However, if you feel jealous of your best friend, you should either check your approach to your friend’s words and actions or get a new best friend because jealousy cannot exist where love and friendship does. However, for some reason, if you do feel a rivalry or constant need to compare yourself with your best friend, you are not alone and this issue can be nipped in the bud. Here are a few tips to overcome jealousy from your best friend:

Recognize that you are jealous:

The first and foremost step in solving a problem is to recognize that the problem exists. Unless you can accept that you are harbouring feelings of jealousy against your best friend, nothing can help you to overcome it. Crazy as it may sound, if you keep comparing yourself to your best friend and if you constantly wish to be in his/her shoes, you are jealous of him/her.

Stop comparing yourself with him/her:

Once you have identified the problem, you need to start thinking about a plan of action to overcome this envious feeling. Don’t allow the green-eyed little monster inside you to get the better of you. If you keep comparing yourself and your assets with him/her, stop doing that immediately because it’s not going to get you anywhere. It is not going to be easy but just stay strong and divert your mind into other activities whenever you feel jealous.

Be content with what you have:

Learn to be satisfied with your life irrespective of what you have. There are people in this planet who would give anything to be in your shoes so don’t feel bad about yourself. If your best friend has something that you don’t, learn to appreciate it.

Admire your individuality:

Tell yourself that you are special and just as good as the next person. Feel comfortable with yourself and recognize all the good attributes and talent that you have. Instead of wasting time on envious feelings, discover your own individual characteristics. Unless you learn to appreciate your qualities, nobody else will.

Think about things you are better at:

Whenever your mind wanders into forbidden territory and you cannot help but compare yourself with her, instead of asking yourself “How can she sing so well?”, and turning green in envy, think about the things that you are better at. Everyone has something special in them and your special attribute is probably just waiting to be discovered.

Try to compliment her sincerely:

Even though this can be difficult with all the jealousy raging within you, try to be sincere when you compliment her for something. Don’t keep any feelings of ill-will when you say anything nice to her because that will make you a fake friend instead of a jealous friend.

Give it your best shot and leave no regrets:

Your best friend might be better at you than dancing or in academics but it honestly doesn’t matter as long as you have given it the best you could. If you actually concentrate on giving it your best shot instead of wasting time thinking about your best friend and distracting yourself, you might just prove to be better than him/her.

Try to talk to him/her:

If you share a very close and comfortable relationship with him/her, you can also consider talking about your feelings and do something about it together. Sharing your feelings can give the much needed outlet for your negative thoughts.

He/she is your best friend so think about their positive attributes:

Even though you are envious of him/her right now, you chose your him/her as your best friend so there has to be some positive attribute in them that you admire. Think about the qualities that brought your best friend so close to you and appreciate the good in them. Harbouring jealousy is not going to get you where your friend is but it is going to ruin your friendship with him/her sooner or later.

Be accepting and open minded:

Have a heart and accept things for what they are. Being envious of your best friend’s achievements isn’t going to get you there. He/she doesn’t have super powers. If they have achieved something, it is because of their hard work, diligence and will power and if you exhibit these qualities, you can be there too.

Is your jealousy going to help you? Think about it:

Ask this question to yourself and you will get the answer to all your questions. This is a little trick I play with myself whenever I feel anything negative towards someone and it works wonders for self-realization.

Your jealousy might be signalling something deeper:

You might be jealous on a very superficial level. If you think about it, perhaps in your sub-conscious mind, this jealousy might not be person specific at all. There can be many reasons for someone to feel jealous apart from the most obvious one of wanting to be in their shoes so if you feel jealous of others frequently, consider going to therapy.

Think about the difficulties she has dealt with or deals with on an everyday basis:

If you cannot see your qualities or just appreciate what they have without wanting to have that too, try thinking about the problems that they have dealt with in the past or are dealing with right now. Try to empathize with their situation and feel happy for their achievements.

Talk to someone about this problem:

If all else fails, talk to someone about your jealousy. It can be a parent, a friend, your sibling or even the school/college counsellor. Neither should such feelings be encouraged, nor should they be kept bottled up inside you. Get some help before it’s too late.

This post is written by Jason Gilbert who has been working with Corebloggers as a resident writer. He loves writing about career, personal development, etc. His recently published post was how to deal with loneliness.

 

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Using the Law of Attraction to Improve Your Life

If you’ve ever heard of “The Secret” that Oprah Winfrey famously talked about on her show, you’ve heard of the law of attraction. The law of attraction isn’t necessarily a “secret,” but rather a popular belief that essentially says the way you think will affect your life. A very simple way of summing up the law of attraction is the saying, “like attracts like.” If you have positive thoughts, positive things will happen in your life. In turn, negative thinking will create negative results. Many people practice the law of attraction in their lives, and it’s easy to use it in yours, too. If you’re looking to improve your life, here are some simple ways to do it using the law of attraction.

Follow Your Heart
Many people use the law of attraction when they want to get certain results, such as earning more money or finding a soul mate. With the law of attraction, it’s believed that if you are a happy person, and you do things that make you happy and live in a positive way, more positive things will be able to come to you. You should do what you love, for example, and success will find you. If you concentrate on a career or relationship that doesn’t make you happy, you’re not giving yourself room to improve. It’s important to first and foremost focus on the things that give you joy, and the rest will follow.

Say Daily Affirmations
Affirmations are an important part of the law of attraction. You have to open yourself up to the possibilities of success and improvement in your life, and affirmations are a way to do it. Think of a very simple phrase that describes the success you hope for. For example, “I have a loving partner,” or “I earn millions of dollars per year.” Then, repeat this affirmation to yourself many times throughout the day, such as when you wake up, when you’re in the car, and before you go to bed. If you truly believe the affirmation, it’s more likely to come true.

Trust Your Instincts
The law of attraction focuses on the pull of the universe. When you’re open to positivity and living a positive life, more good things will come to you. In addition, your instincts are how the universe guides you. For example, if you suddenly get a feeling or an inspiration about something, go with it. Listen to the cues that you can’t explain, because they’re there for a reason.

Be Grateful
It’s also incredibly important to be grateful for the positivity in your life. You shouldn’t take anything for granted, and you should be grateful for even the smallest things. That appreciation will bring even more positivity into your life. Your emotions and mood will set the tone for the results you get in your life, so try to practice being grateful every day. You might want to keep a gratitude journal to remind you of all the good things in life.

As you continue to practice the law of attraction in your life, you should begin to see some improvements. Opening yourself up the possibility of a better life will put you a big step ahead toward getting there. As you try to banish all things negative from your life, especially negative feelings, you’ll notice things begin to turn around for the better.

Stella Brown writes about relationships and wellness with help from her favorite grammar checker. Since it’s cold where she lives, she is looking forward to a long Bahamas vacation.

 

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Cross Culture Communication

Different cultures have different ways of expressing and communicating their thoughts and feelings, which means that many people who try to cross culture communicate get lost and confused. If you have tried before you have probably learned that to communicate to people who are not of the same culture can be very difficult. There are some strategies that you can use that will help you better cross communicate, unlike the futures trading secrets course you can learn the strategies for cross cultural communication right now.

Here are some tips and strategies to help you out when you need to communicate with someone from a different culture:

  • Assume. Always assume that the differences in cultures could cause communication problems. However, because this is the case, you should never assume that you know what is being thought and said by someone from another culture. When you jump to conclusions about what is being said things could get aggressive over a simple misunderstanding.
  • Stop and think. If things do not seem to be going very well while you are trying to communicate with someone from another culture stop and think. Stop and slow down to think about what is going on. Usually if things start going wrong it is because of a misinterpretation.
  • Actively listen. Listening actively means that you repeat what you think you heard. That way, as you are telling the other person what you thought they were saying, any misinterpretation can be straightened out. All misinterpretation can be eliminated when you actively listen to each other.
  • Get help. If all else fails and you are really having a hard time understanding each other; find someone who knows both cultures and languages. These people are called intermediaries. Intermediaries are people who help with cross-cultural communication because they are familiar with both cultures. The intermediary can be very important because the differences in one culture can make a person from another culture feel uncomfortable and the intermediary can help explain or control this. However, when using an intermediary who is the same culture as one of the people trying to communicate it can make it look like there is a bias when there is none.

When you are trying to cross communicate with someone just remember to be careful with your words and try to explain what you mean as you are speaking. Cross culture communication can be difficult but it is not impossible.

Madison Hewerdine is an author who writes about the futures trading secrets course and has a passion for Latin dancing.

 

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