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Lindsey Graham’s loyalty to Trump goes unrewarded

Republican Presidential hopeful and U.S. Senator Lindsey Graham (R-SC) speaks at an event at the National Press Club on Sept. 8, 2015 in Washington, D.C. (Photo by Alex Wong/Getty)
Republican Presidential hopeful and U.S. Senator Lindsey Graham (R-SC) speaks at an event at the National Press Club on Sept. 8, 2015 in Washington, D.C.
Photo by Alex Wong/Getty

Sen. Lindsey Graham (R-S.C.), once one of Donald Trump’s fiercest Republican critics, experienced a metamorphosis in 2017. The South Carolina Republican, who had been a frequent target of presidential mockery and derision, decided he’d transform himself into one of Trump’s closest Capitol Hill allies.

Graham attacked the press for its criticisms of Trump. Graham promoted conspiracy theories and anti-Clinton nonsense that Trump was likely to favor. Graham pressed the Justice Department to go after the author of the Trump/Russia dossier. Graham golfed with Trump and bragged about how nice Trump’s course was. Even after Graham heard Trump condemn immigrants from, in the president’s words, “shithole countries,” the GOP bit his tongue and refused to publicly acknowledge what we knew to be true.

And yet, in Trump World, Graham’s loyalty is worth effectively nothing. Politico  noted last night:

Sens. Lindsey Graham (R-S.C.) and Dick Durbin (D-Ill.) “were completely dishonest” in their negotiations on immigration with President Donald Trump, White House deputy press secretary Hogan Gidley said Monday.

Gidley criticized a bipartisan deal on immigration brought forth by the lawmakers, along with four other senators, for failing to live up to their assurances to the White House.

The White House official added, “To pretend [Graham[ is anything other than someone who wants open borders and amnesty is just disingenuous.” Hogan Gidley had related comments against Graham over the weekend.

Yesterday, in apparent reference to Graham, White House Press Secretary Sarah Huckabee Sanders added, “It is almost appalling to me that you have a senator that isn’t stepping up, doing the right thing.”

Graham carried the president’s water for a while. Now Trump World is dumping that water on Graham’s head.

Brian Beutler had a good piece along these lines last week, mocking Graham for his foolish gamble.

The Lindsey Graham Theory of Groveling suffers from two obvious weaknesses that, when combined, fatally undermine it. First, Graham isn’t the only powerful person who seeks to curry favor with Trump by sucking up to him and abetting his misconduct. Second – in both the retelling of those around him, and in a recent, televised meeting with lawmakers at the White House – Trump has proven to be wildly manipulable, careening between incompatible positions whenever he engages new stakeholders. Trump is regularly driven to undermine his administration by Fox News hosts, who know Trump mindlessly live tweets their shows, and thus tailor their programming to influence administration policy and messaging.

Graham has thus humiliated himself for the most fleeting of rewards: convincing Trump of things that a person with less heterodox views can unconvince him of just as quickly.

I’d just add that nearly everyone who tries to curry favor with Trump seems to forget the limits of his loyalty. As we discussed after Reince Priebus’ ouster, Trump’s brief political career has been marked, repeatedly, by his rejection of those who’ve shown him nothing but deference.

The president has made clear he sees loyalty as something he expects to receive, not bestow. Graham apparently thought he was slowly gaining influence and favor in the White House by telling Trump what he wanted to hear. Let this be a lesson to others who follow the senator’s path: loyalty to Trump will go unrewarded.

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The Surprising Health Benefits Of Napping

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Have you ever felt so run down that you just had to take a nap? I don’t really enjoy naps because they make me feel groggy and gross, but sometimes it has to be done. Did you know that there’s a right and wrong way to take a quick snooze? Yup, it’s true. Studies have shown that you should not nap for more than 20 minutes at a time because it can put you into REM sleep, which isn’t the best for feeling refreshed. If you prefer, you can cut it down to about 10-12 minutes, but it might not make you feel rested enough.

Some people may argue that naps aren’t good for you and that they only make your energy levels worse, but they’re sadly mistaken. Napping has quite a few benefits to it including short-term memory boosts, relaxation when you’re stressed and more. Let’s check out what all the benefits of napping are and get you on the right track to successful short-term snoozing.

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What Is Napping?

I’m sure you already know, but napping is nothing more than a brief sleep that helps recharge your brain and body. It can be done in just a short amount of time or longer if needed.

 

How To Properly Nap

It seems silly, but there are proper and improper types of naps. I know I got into this briefly earlier, but I want to explain to you how you should properly nap, allowing you to get the most energy.

 

Pick A Napping Style

Depending on what kind of person you are, how stressed you may be and how tired you are, you can pick and choose how long your naps last for. It’s best to try to snooze for about 20-30 minutes. This will help your body refresh itself without giving you sleep inertia or disrupting your nighttime sleeping routine. Your body will stay in a lighter sleep mode rather than going into REM sleep. This is a deeper sleep that is going to make you feel even more tired after you wake up and you might not be as productive as you hoped. You can play around with nap times to see how long you can go without going into REM sleep and what time frames will give you the best results.

 

Where To Nap

If you find yourself getting sleepy at work, especially during night shifts, which happened to roughly 29% of people in a sleep study conducted by the National Sleep Foundation, go out to your car and take a power nap. Workplaces usually aren’t “nap friendly”, but if you can get away with taking a quick snooze at your desk, go for it, but don’t get in trouble. Your best bet is to use your car to avoid being reprimanded.

If you’re on the road and you start feeling groggy, stop into a rest area, don’t park on the shoulder. If it’s nighttime, make sure you are in a well-lit area where there are people and keep your doors locked. You should never continue to drive if you are starting to get tired because it’s a safety hazard to you and everybody on the road around you.

Getting tired at school? I’ve been there a lot. My suggestion is to wait until you can get into the library and take a quick power nap there. It’s the quietest place in the school, especially college. Don’t skip classes, though.

 

Setting Up Your Nap Place

When you’re ready to take your nap, pick a dark room. Blocking out the light will help you fall asleep quicker. If it’s not possible to get into a dark room, get yourself a sleep mask. This will give you artificial darkness. These are also great for migraine sufferers who need instant darkness.

 

Find The Right Temperature

Whoever thought adult napping was so frustrating. If it’s too hot or too cold, chances are you aren’t going to sleep very well or you might have problems falling asleep. It’s recommended that the temperature of room or the area in which you want to nap stays between 60 and 67 degrees fahrenheit.

If you can’t control the temperature or you have limited means of doing so, keep a blanket or comfortable jacked handy and maybe even a little portable fan to keep your face cool. If you’re anything like me, you may find it impossible to sleep without some kind of white noise. In this case, install a white noise app on your phone or invest in one of those white noise machines.

 

Napping Length

Don’t feel like playing with nap numbers? Here’s a few suggestions when it comes to nap times.

2-5 minutes

This is an effective nap time for when you are so tired that you just can’t continue doing what you’re doing. I am absolutely notorious for doing this. Nano-naps are a good way to try to deal with some of this sleepiness. Lay your head down in a safe place and set a timer for 2-5 minutes and hope for the best.

5-20 minutes

This optimal & recommended nap time frame is best for increasing your motor performance, stamina, and increasing alertness. These are called mini-naps and work best when you have a couch or bed to lay on rather than a desk.

20 Minutes

This is the average nap time for adults. These types mid-day naps help rid the brain of information that’s unnecessarily stored in your short-term memory. These types of power naps also improve muscle memory and the ability to remember more important facts, especially if you have a test to take.

50-90 minutes

If you want to go through the complete sleep cycle in just short amount of time, this “lazy man’s nap” is a long nap that allows your body to reach REM sleep. This type of snooze is best for those who both physically and mentally tired. This type of sleep gives your body the proper time needed to repair itself.

 

Are Naps Good For You?

Naps are absolutely good for you. Although they have a lot of negative stigma, they are one of the most powerful tools when it comes to self-improvement. They have the ability to increase your productivity, intelligence, health and well-being. Did you know that a lot of famous individuals were known for their naps? Thomas Edison, John F. Kennedy, Winston Churchill, and Napoleon were always napping whenever they could. These were some of the most intelligent people, aside from Einstein, who depended on their quick snooze sessions.

 

Benefits Of Napping During The Day

Napping during the day is one of the best ways to help you keep your concentration and remain alert. NASA performed a study that proved 20 minutes of napping is more effective than 200mg of caffeine and a 40 minute nap is proven to increase how alert you are by 100%. Napping for a little bit after lunchtime can help workers make less errors at their job and students can study better.

Stress Reduction

Small naps, or snaps, can reduce the negative effects or bad emotions. Stress can lead to depression, could affect your performance at work or make other people around you cranky and upset. Depression isn’t something that you want to subject yourself for others to.

Improves Memory

Not sleeping enough can result in less productivity and performance. In terms of students, especially college students, napping will help retain over loaded information. Napping has the ability to improve memory and if you have the time to take an hour to 90 minute nap, your mental fatigue can disappear.

Increased Creativity

Napping regularly can greatly help improve your sensory perception. It also increases your creativity, which will then boost your work performance. When you take enough naps, your intelligence and creative ideas will come out. Just like you body, your brain needs its rest as well.

It’s A Money Saver

Naps save money? Yes they do! Rather than spending odd amounts of money on energy drinks or Starbucks, even though Starbucks is delicious, you can take a nap and naturally boost your energy levels more effectively.

 

Health Benefits Of Napping

Sure, snoozing here and there is going to make you mentally and emotionally feel better, but did you know that it can also be healthy for you in terms of your heart and muscles. If you are lacking sleep, it can lead to excess cortisol, which can then lead to a glucose intolerance and an increase in abdominal fat. Deprivation in sleep or napping can trigger diabetes and heart disease.

You see, your growth hormone only releases when you sleep and prevents you from certain health ailments. Not only that, but it helps with muscle repair and weight loss. A study was done with Greek individuals and it showed that those who napped for 30 minutes were less likely to suffer a heart condition. Without napping, working men have a 64% more risk of dying from a heart condition.

 

Immune System Improvement

Go ahead and rest yourself, because doing so can help you immune and neuroendocrine systems recover better. A 30-minute nap can help reverse the impact on your hormones of a poor night of sleep. A study was conducted in 11 healthy men between 25 and 32 over 3-day sessions. The first session had the men limited to only two hours of sleep. The second section allowed two hours of sleep, but the third day, these men were allowed to take two 30-minute naps throughout the day. Each one of these sessions allowed for eight-hours of sleep and the last night there was unlimited sleep.

After each day, the saliva and hormone levels of each man were measured to see how napping or not napping had an affect on them. Studies showed that after a two-hour night of sleep, they had a 2.5 fold increase in their levels of norepinephrine, which is part of stress and increases the body’s heart rate, blood pressure, and blood sugar. It was also shown that their levels of interleukin-6 dropped, which is a protein with antiviral elements, after one night of no sleep. Participants who napped showed normal levels.

 

It Lifts Your Spirits

Have you ever been in contact with anybody who’s sleep deprived? They aren’t the most cheerful person are they? Even if you don’t get enough sleep, you’re probably moody. A quick nap is an extreme mood booster, no matter how old you are. This is why when you encounter a sleepy toddler, you put them down for a nap and their mood is suddenly better.

 

Reduces Information Overload

A lot of times, people avoid taking a nap because they feel like they have too much to do. If you put in too many hours during the day without any rest, it can dramatically decrease your productivity. It has been shown that when people don’t nap, their performance on the task they do is deteriorated. However, those who take a 30-minute nap halted the performance deterioration. Those who took a one hour nap saw an improvement in their performance.

 

Boosts Sex Drive

Lack of sleep can have a very bad effect on somebody’s libido. Ladies, this one is for you. If you get just an hour more of sleep each day from napping, your likelihood of having sex is increased by 14 percent. Okay, so I guess this one was for the men, too. Let’s face it, if you’re tired, you aren’t going to want to be involved in any sexual activity. Your main concern will be getting to sleep at a decent time rather than having a little bit of fun beforehand.

 

Decreased Chance Of Weight Gain

A Stanford University study found that if you lack sleep, it triggers gherkin, which is a hormone that makes you want to eat more. It also lowers the level of leptin, which is the hormone that tells you you’re full. So, without sleep, you eat more and your body can’t tell you when you’ve had enough

 

Reduced Arguments

Studies have shown that just one night without a good rest can worsen arguments between you and your partner, or even your co-workers. You will become less accurate when it comes to reading emotions and you’re more likely to become more cranky.

 

No More indiscriminate Mistakes

Have you ever suffered from beer goggles? Sleep deprivation has pretty much the same effect. When men are sleep deprived, they found women to be more attractive and were more interested in casual sex. It does this by interfering with the frontal lobe of your brain, which is responsible for impulse control, sexual behavior, social behavior, and judgement.

 

Protection For That Erection

Sleeping less than five hours per day can decrease your testosterone levels by 10-15 percent, according to a study done by the University of Chicago. When you lack testosterone, you can suffer from weaker sperm, difficulty obtaining an erection and a lower sex drive. Sleep is core for testosterone production and if you don’t get enough of it, your body will produce other chemicals that will continue to mess with your testosterone. Protect that erection by taking naps when tired.

 

It Keeps You Sane

Sleep deprivation is a scary thing, which is why you need to nap when you feel it’s necessary. It can cause you to develop fake memories. A study was conducted by the University of California that observed those who did not get enough sleep. The study showed that those who did not get enough shuteye saw imaginary details in pictures after they were just read those details in a separate narrative after the fact. People who didn’t get enough sleep before the narrative didn’t have that problem. Those who don’t get adequate sleep can have their brain jumbled, causing some confusion.

 

It Reduces Anxiety

Anxiety is a scary thing, trust me on this. I am an anxiety sufferer and when I don’t get enough sleep, it only gets worse. Another study done by the University of California showed that when people weren’t getting enough sleep, they have a lot more activity in the areas of the brain that are associated with anxiety. The study also warns that those who lack sleep are at a greater risk for developing an anxiety disorder. Taking naps can help reduce your level of fatigue, reducing your level of anxiety.

 

It Can Prevent Dementia

Lacking sleep can lead to Alzheimer’s disease according to researchers from Johns Hopkins University. They studied a group of individuals and those who did not have enough sleep had greater deposits of B-Amyloid, which is a plaque associated with the disease. When you sleep, even if it’s just a mini-nap, your brain cleans itself, removing those plaques.

 

Skin Is Better

If you’re one for perfect skin, you’ll want to start napping. Sleep deprived individuals have more fine lines, loose skin, and uneven skin tones. If you stay up all night, you may age faster because your skin won’t repair itself.

 

Repair From An All-Nighter

Did you pull an all-nighter? I’ve been there and I was exhausted all day. If you’re lacking sleep, it can physically make you sick. Luckily, if you take a nap, you can regenerate yourself. A study published in the Journal of Clinical Endocrinology & Metabolism found that men who napped for 30-minutes twice a day were able to reset their stress-hormone levels.

 

You’re Less Of A Jerk

Lack of sleep can lower your self-control, making you a jerk. You’ll find yourself yelling for no reason, being unreasonable, cranky, and all around mean. So, for everybody’s sake, take a nap and don’t be that guy.

 

Conclusion

If you think napping is the lazy way to get through the day, it’s not. Napping has many health benefits, as seen above. It’s helpful for the heart, brain, skin, and immune system. Not to mention, it’s a huge money saver because you won’t be spending your cash on energy supplements. The best way to nap is to lay on a comfortable mattress and snooze for 20-minutes. It’s vital to your health and sex life that you get enough sleep, even if it means taking a quick nap at your desk, in your car or in your home.

 

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Don’t miss the ‘super blue blood moon’ on Jan. 31

A total lunar eclipse from September 2015

Photo: Patrik Stollarz/AFP/Getty Images

January 2018 has been a month of lunar events.

First, there was a full moon on Jan. 1. The January full moon is always called the Wolf Moon, a name credited to howling wolvesthat were sometimes heard by Native Americans and European colonists at this time of year.

But that doesn’t seem like such a big deal. After all, we get one full moon every month — but not this January! That’s because there’s another full moon Jan. 31. It’s actually a blue moon, the name for a second full moon in a single month.

This blue moon will be even more special since it will occur during a total lunar eclipse, which begins in the early morning of Jan. 31, according to NASA. This means not only will we have a blue moon on Jan. 31, but for the Western U.S., Hawaii and half of Asia, the moon will also be a blood-red color as it enters the deepest part of the eclipse.

supermoon is the term given to the moon when it’s at its closest to Earth in its orbit, which varies a little bit since the moon’s orbit isn’t a perfect circle. This January’s supermoon will appear about 11 percent larger than usual, according to Space.com.

A total lunar eclipse occurs when the moon, sun and Earth are aligned, and Earth’s shadow is cast on the moon. The spooky red color happens because the red light that passes through our atmosphere is bent. Space.com suggests thinking of the atmosphere as a lens that shines the light onto the moon, creating that crimson color even though the moon is completely in shadow.

Editor’s note: This article has been updated since it was originally published in December 2017.

 

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Five interesting facts that will make you stop sucking

by Christine Lepisto (@greenanswer  –

35,000

That’s the number of plastic straws the average American uses in a lifetime.

500 million

Every single day, Americans toss 500 million plastic straws in the trash. That’s 175 billion straws per year.

Top Ten in the Ocean

According to the Ocean conservancy, plastic straws are in the top ten marine debris items (here’s looking at you, cig butts and single-use shopping bags in positions #1 and #2!)

2050

At the current rate, this is the year in which the weight of plastic in the ocean will exceed the weight of all the fish in the seas.

2.3 million

The Strawless in Seattle campaign encouraged business to voluntarily give up plastic straws, keeping 2.3 million of the persistent tubes out of the environment.

Bonus fun fact: the first artificial straws were paper

Compostable paper straws are often suggested as an alternative when you just can’t stand to sip with your lips. Did you know that the first straw was invented from paper, by winding a strip around a pencil? The inventor, Marvin Chester Stone, patented the artificial straw in 1888, offering a replacement for natural rye grass straws that dissolved in the beverage and imparted a grassy taste.We dug up these fun facts after tripping over the Strawless Ocean Stop Suckingcampaign in the mainstream media. The clever ad features a number of celebrities getting “sucker punched” by an (artificial) octopus tentacle in slow motion.

Could this widespread attention to the issue finally be the last straw?

 

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Only 20 Percent Of Total Bitcoins Remain To Be Mined

Bitcoin miners passed a significant milestone over the weekend, when they mined the 16.8 millionth bitcoin from the cryptocurrency’s planned total of 21 million coins. This means that 80 percent of all bitcoins that will be in existence have already been mined. According to estimates, bitcoin will reach its final coin figure sometime in 2040. (See also: How Does Bitcoin Mining Work?)

Over the years, bitcoin has adjusted the number of coins in circulation through a complex calibration of miner rewards and problem difficulty. Bitcoins are awarded to miners who solve complex mathematical problems through intensive computation. The reward number is halved every 210,000 blocks, per bitcoin’s original algorithm.

Immediately after bitcoin’s launch, miners earned 50 coins as reward for solving problems. It was cut to 25 in 2012 and 12.5 in 2016. In two years, miners can expect 6.25 bitcoins as rewards. The difficulty of problems has kept pace with rewards. As the number of rewards has decreased, bitcoin’s problem difficulty has increased, thereby making it more difficult and computation intensive to earn the coin. (See also: 5 Best States For Bitcoin Mining And The Worst.)

What Does This Mean For Bitcoin?

Scarcity has an important role to play in bitcoin’s price. The latter entity is expected to skyrocket as demand and scarcity increase. In December 2017, Nicholas Gregory, CEO of CommerceBlock, a provider of tools for smart contract platforms, said that high transaction fees would keep bitcoin in business even after the final coin is mined.

Transaction fees on bitcoin’s network have surged after increased media attention and interest from investors resulted in skyrocketing prices for the cryptocurrency. According to blockchain.info, miners earned $22.7 million cumulatively in transaction fees on December 21, 2017, right after bitcoin’s price briefly flirted with $20,000.

Bitcoin’s high transaction fees and scarcity have helped position the cryptocurrency as a store of value. This approach is in direct contrast to other cryptocurrencies, which are striving for low transaction fees and greater consumer traction. They have adopted other algorithms, such as Proof of Stake, in order to achieve this aim. But bitcoin remains unique as the progenitor and original cryptocurrency.

“Unlike your MP3s or digital movies, bitcoins cannot be copied, and this weekend 16.8 million of them have been mined, hoarded and a large number of them have been lost. To many cryptocurrency investors, this makes Satoshi’s invention a very valuable digital asset, unlike anything the world has ever seen,” wrote Jamie Redman, a reporter for bitcoin.com.

Investing in cryptocurrencies and other Initial Coin Offerings (“ICOs”) is highly risky and speculative, and this article is not a recommendation by Investopedia or the writer to invest in cryptocurrencies or other ICOs. Since each individual’s situation is unique, a qualified professional should always be consulted before making any financial decisions. Investopedia makes no representations or warranties as to the accuracy or timeliness of the information contained herein. As of the date this article was written, the author owns small amounts of bitcoin. It is unclear whether he owns other bitcoin forks.

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6 awful things that happen to your body when you don’t get enough sleep

by Melissa Breyer (@MelissaBreyer) –

Little Nemo

Promo image | Little Nemo in Slumberland by Winsor McCay, 1906 (Wikimedia Commons)

A UC Berkeley neuroscientist explains some of the surprisingly dramatic ways in which a lack of sleep affects the mind and body.

We all know we are supposed to get a good night’s sleep. And many of us – aside from you fortunate sleepers who have the time and talent for slumber – don’t get enough of it. Eight hours? Hahaha, says the chronic insomniac, the parent of small children, the person who has to be at work at six in the morning. And so it goes for the underslept: immediately insert coffee, wade through foggy morning, suffer from darkened eyes and enhanced irritability.

But according to Matthew Walker, PhD, author of “Why We Sleep” and professor of neuroscience and psychology at the University of California, Berkeley, the deleterious impact goes way beyond feeling groggy and grumpy during the day. In the video below, he explains just how seriously sleep or lack thereof can have an impact on your health – here are the six main takeaways, with further explanation in the video.

1. A lack of sleep prevents your brain from being able to make new memories.

2. Too little sleep leads to a boost in the development of a toxic protein in the brain called beta amyloid, which is associated with Alzheimer’s disease

3. Sleeping just five or six hours a night affects the reproductive system in men, leading to a level of testosterone of someone ten years older.

4. Sleep deprivation has an impact on the immune system and predicts your risk for developing numerous forms of cancer.

5. A lack of sleep wreaks havoc on the cardiovascular system.

6. After being awake for 19 or 20 hours, mental capacity is so impaired that you would be as deficient as someone who was legally drunk while driving.

I suppose it all makes sense; the body wants sleep for a reason. But spelling it all out like that really drive the point home. For help in the forty-winks department, see the related stories below … and get some sleep!

 

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He just wanted to talk. Then he wanted a hug. This woman’s story is a must-read for men.

When Lily Evans set out to walk her dog, she had no idea the story of that walk would later go viral on the internet.

When she took to Twitter to recount her experience, she opened with a simple question, one that many men have probably wondered for a long time — though women already know the answer.

(Before you click through to the thread itself, note that Lily’s Twitter account is expressly for adults and may be NSFW.)

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All Twitter images from Lily Evans/Twitter, used with permission. A transcript of the excerpted tweets is available at the end of the story.

The walk started off normal enough. Until she ran into a seemingly friendly stranger.

A man eating on a nearby bench offered her dog, Echo, a treat.

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He eventually asked her if she lived in the area — which could be considered slightly intrusive — but all in all, it was just small talk.

But then she ran into him again shortly after.

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Evans says his friendly banter — maybe innocent, but more likely not — was making her incredibly uncomfortable.

And yet he continued to linger.

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Then he invaded her physical space with an out-of-nowhere hug.

“I was terrified,” she wrote.

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Evans hurried home, petrified the man would follow her.

He didn’t. But the experience left her shaken and upset. Worst of all, she says, she has been through this many, many times before.

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Her story went viral in a hurry, with over 44,000 retweets, 68,000 likes, and thousands of comments.

“The response from other women has been pretty heartbreaking,” Evans writes in a Twitter exchange with Upworthy. “Many, many women have used this as an opportunity to share their stories of harassment, assault, or even just being very frightened.”

The replies to Evans’ tweet thread is littered with similar stories — seemingly “nice” guys on the street or public transportation who push small talk far past its acceptable boundaries.

Though she’s glad her story made other women feel more comfortable coming forward with their own experiences, Evans hopes it also leaves an impression on men who read it.

“I had several guys ask me how they can be more non-threatening, and that’s exactly what I was aiming for.”

“I got a lot of replies from men saying, ‘Oh, I’m so sorry that happened, but we aren’t all like that! Some of us are nice guys,'” she says. “And while that’s true, my point was that strangers cannot know what your intentions are until it’s too late.

She hits on an important point: It’s not inherently wrong or creepy to strike up a conversation with a stranger, but women truly never know when a simple “hi” is going to turn into them being followed and harassed.

“I had several guys ask me how they can be more non-threatening, and that’s exactly what I was aiming for,” she says. “I just want men to be more self-aware and understand that when a woman they don’t know is skittish, it’s nothing personal. We’re just trying to be safe.”

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